Speaking the 'truth in love' can be a very difficult thing to do. And a very difficult thing to receive. And sometimes unnecessary.
Confronting isn't always ours to do.
If my friend is talking disrespectfully about her husband; complaining and not honouring him, is it my job to confront her?
If my husband is not helping around the house, or watching too much tv, do I tell him?
Or if my husband is short with our children, do I need to confront him?
Sometimes love doesn't need to speak. Sometimes love remembers that I watch too much tv, get angry with the children and sometimes complain as well. Sometimes love just prays.
When I see something someone in my life is doing wrong, sometimes the best thing I can do is pray and trust the Holy Spirit.
"But the Comforter, the Holy Spirit, Whom the Father will send in My Name, He will teach you all things. And He will cause you to recall everything I have told you."
The Holy Spirit is there to convict us because God loves us and wants the best for our lives. His conviction is all about God's love.
When I give the situation to God and He can speak into the hearts. I have seen God change hearts in a way that would never be possible for me to do. God loves our friends, our children, our husband and our marriage even more than we do.
I need to remember that true change takes place when the Holy Spirit speaks, not me.